Communication is everything. A doctor should inspire trust on every level, be willing to be interviewed, understand that you plan to have an active role in your own health.

Some women prefer women doctors, some like men. What is important, however, is that the doctor understand your concerns about preventive medicine, that the doctor is someone who will talk you through every stage of diagnosis and explain all possible side effects of any medication.

Questions to ask your doctor:

• What hospital are you associated with? (sometimes the doctor is great, but the hospital isn't)
• How would I find you in an emergency? Can I have your home or beeper number? How do I reach your backup doctor? (Type all information on a wallet card for you and your family)